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June 2010
Dream, dream, dream!
I used to daydream a lot in grammar school. I loved horses and I
pretended
everyone at their desks were jockeys and we were in a race. The teacher
was the finish line. Needless to say, I always sat in the front of
the class!
Forty-eight
years later, my imagination is still hard
at work. Now, by remembering my own first daydreams, I'm helping people
find
their magical dream.
Who
were your role models when you were eight years old? What do you
remember about them? Do you ever dream about them?
Sadly,
many of us get sidetracked in the space between dreams and reality. We
end up
doing work-related activities that we don't feel passionate about and
have
nothing to do with our dreams.
Have you halted yourself in your own path? What are the real issues?
Money?
Support from a spouse, a sibling, or your parents? Support from society?
Mid-life
is a time to drop the excuses and find answers. The rest of your
life is, indeed, up to you. Think back to your earliest daydreams when
you're
choosing "what you want to do when you grow up." Paint pictures, sell
fine china, do accounting, design clothing, teach
children, etc., whatever makes you happiest. Go where your dreams go.
Three
threats of mid-life
Most of my
clients face major issues that typically involve relationships,
finances, and a person's own emotional state. Mid-life is the time to
take
ownership over these matters, as they're the ones that matter most. The
decisions are clearly up to you.
You could make excuses for why you cannot follow your passion.
You could
take the perceivably safe road. You could keep your current career and
peer far
into the future toward retirement. But
then what? Death? How about
grabbing life with both hands now and steering yourself in a new
direction that
makes the most of each day -- and your life.
“Dreams are
illustrations... from the book your soul
is
writing about
you.” Marsha Norman
No
learning without
hardship
Following your vocational passion
should be easier. I wish a person could simply do what they loved and
not worry
about money, relationships, or self-permission. But in my research, my
practice, and my own life, this is sadly not the case.
When you lose something in your life
– a job, a relationship or a person, it
gives you pause. You reassess your priorities and what matters most to
you.
The choices a person makes when facing life’s
challenges become the defining
moments in life. These moments are where real learning and meaning
occur.
Life keeps on moving
Here's a reminder: Whether you take action or not, things will
keep happening.
Life is like a vacuum. The space will quickly be used up with other
stuff if
you are not careful.
When
you move toward what you want, your excitement is catchy. Other people
will enjoy being around you and will want to support your path.
Give
yourself the go-ahead
Make a list of
what you want. Make a list of what your Perfect Vocational Day™
would be like.
Pick a few small steps and take action now. If you don’t know yet what
your
place in the world might be, try on a few different roles. If these
don’t fit,
move on to a few more.
Don’t guilt yourself
for not having done it sooner. You are
always doing the best you can at the time. Maybe you weren’t ready
then. It’s also okay to take baby steps and make a
transition plan. But just keep doing.
Most
of all, give yourself permission to explore. You can experience more
meaning and fulfillment if you expect that the choices that you make
will be
the right ones. You deserve it!
The 3 Steps to Achieving Your Dreams:
1) Be clear about
your dream.
2)
Remove limiting beliefs and internal blocks.
3) Make a plan for success.
Coaching Challenge
Pick
3 things that you always wanted to do as a child. Then do 1
small thing from each one. So for instance, say you always wanted to be
an astronaut. So maybe you would then plan a trip to Cape Canaveral, go
to a museum, buy some models of planet or even write a personal letter
to a current astronaut. Or maybe you always wanted to be a ballerina.
You could take a class, buy a costume, see the ballet or try to go
backstage at a performance.
Christina's Coaching Corner
What
is
coaching? A coach is a professional who supports,
empowers and challenges individual to help them realize their personal
and
professional goals. The coaching relationship is a partnership relying
on a
high level of trust and connection between coach and client. The coach
helps
the client clarify their own agenda and support them in creating and
following
through on a strategy to achieve their goals.
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May 2010
Do
you currently do affirmations or have you been curious about them? How do they work and what
do you say? What is the purpose? Why would you waste your time and
energy?
The answer – because they can literally change your life! Think of
it this way – you have a tape recorder in your head (okay I’m dating myself, so
let’s say “digital recorder”) and the recordings started when you were a young
child. As you grew up you kept hearing these
recordings over and over and
over again. Your parents, teachers and other adults may have said them
at first but then you took over for them. Do you think you might start
believing these recordings? Even if they are not true? You bet!
If the recordings in your head are all positive and there’s nothing you want to
change about your life, then don’t bother reading this. BUT if you happen
to have recordings such as “You’re not good enough” or “Money is evil” or
“Nobody could ever love you” then you might want to change those recordings.
So essentially that’s what affirmations can do.
"One comes to believe whatever one repeats to oneself
sufficiently often, whether the statement be true of false. It comes to be
dominating thought in one's mind."
Robert Collier
So how do you come up with your own affirmations? First, pick something
you really want to change and can have a lot of enthusiasm about. Second,
put it in the present tense – like it is already happening. Third, be specific
but I like to put at the end of mine… this or something better… to leave the
door open for bigger and better surprises!
Let’s try one. Let’s say you are having issues with people
treating you badly. You may have an unconscious message that has been
playing in your head that may sound something like this “I’m a terrible person.
Everyone hates me. I don’t deserve to have people love and support me. I
am worth nothing.” Sound familiar? So let’s turn this into an
affirmation. “I am surrounded by loving and supportive people. My
family, friends and coworkers enjoy being around me. I attract exactly the kind
of people I need that make me feel important and special. I am loved and
lovable!”
For business, let’s say you are struggling with launching your new business.
So your affirmation could be “My business offers exactly what the market is
looking for. I always have enough time to work on building my
business. I am wildly successful making $100,000 by the end of the year.
This or something better comes to me!”
Coaching Challenge
Pick 3 things that you want to change in your life and write an
affirmation. Post it where you can see it every single day and say it
without fail 3 times a day for 30 days and see what happens! Email
me with your results or if you want some input on how to put together your
affirmations.
CURRENT ECOURSES:
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March 2010
As we emerge from the cold, dark,
winter, we feel the
excitement of Spring. New life, the sun
on our faces, the music of the birds chirping, the perfume of flowers
sprouting! However, without the winter, we
would not have the appreciation that we do for Spring.
The same is true in our lives. Without
the
disappointments and difficult times in our lives, our good times would
not
be quite as sweet.
The next time you
find yourself having a difficulty, bless it and try to find the lesson.
What are you learning and how will it enhance
your life when it’s over? Is there
anything good you can pull from it? What choice are you going to make on
how
you deal with it?
Let’s try one and
reflect on your answers. We are currently in difficult economic times,
there
are many people who have been laid off.
How would you react and what good could you find from this?
Could it be
that you may appreciate your new
job more than you did your past and be a better employee? That you’re
able to
use the time to start a new business you feel passionate about? Spend
more time with your family? Perhaps you become a master of coupons,
sales
and ways to save money. It can also be a
time of self-reflection. Did you really like what you were doing
before? Do you want to try something different?
When
one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so
regretfully upon the closed
door, that we do not see the ones
which open for
us. – Alexander
Graham Bell
Don't
stuff your feelings! That will only make you feel bad for a longer
time, so go ahead and really feel your feelings – go for it! Scream, shake your fists at the
person or entity. Blame! Cry! Have an all out pity party! Get mad, get
sad, get indignant! Then let it go and
forgive.
If you believe in soul contracts, then that may help you to
understand that this is a necessary part of your spiritual growth. You
are becoming a better soul for the next time around.
And most of all...Be loving to
yourself!
Christina's
Coaching Corner
Quick Tip: Make
a notebook (or computer file) and write down when someone says
something nice or compliments you. Also, write down when you have an
accomplishment.
When you are having a
"blue" day, then open your notebook and read all those wonderful
things. It's guaranteed to brighten your day!
To Your Dreams!
Christina
